I’m an Egyptian Woman and I Like Being Sexually Harrassed

I wake up every morning looking forward to getting sexually harassed in Cairo. Because a day gone by without being whistled at like cattle or groped like a melon at a vegetable store is a day unlived in this city. Right?

I even dress according to how often I’d like to get harassed that day. Tight white t-shirt? That’s the number one sign that I’m asking for it. Skinny jeans are obviously worn to highlight my butt so men know what to grab (some short-sighted idiots completely miss and grab my hip instead, which is just plain insulting).

And since I don’t cover my hair, then obviously I know what shit I’m getting myself into by walking on the streets of the city I call home as an equal citizen to the men that lurk on corners, outside shops, dangling from microbuses, waiting happily.

As an Egyptian woman, I completely understand that my purpose in this life is to serve the sexually frustrated imaginations of these poor men who can’t get it up. My father and mother spent years of sweat, tears and hard-earned cash on educating me into an emancipated woman so that one day I become a walking piece of meat on the street. Obviously.

Then I discovered that all the hours I put into my hair and makeup make no difference whatsoever to my sexual predators; I could walk around with my uncombed hair and a gallabeya; hell, I could wear a black tent from head to toe and still, they’d find something sexual about me. Ever heard Egyptian men talk about how erotic the Niqab is? Yeah, apparently there’s nothing you can do or wear to incite harassment.

Just the plain fact that you have boobs and they don’t means you’re up for grabs, literally.

I could spend what’s left of my pea-sized woman’s brain wondering what I did to deserve this friendly male reception, or analyzing why society has continuously objectified us little women into pigeon-holes of either innocent, doe-eyed girls or rampant whores; but I won’t.It takes too much brain power, and me being the weaker sex, I should stick to what I do best, which according to these men, is nothing.

Which is why I should never talk back, or look back, or yell or ask for help; this is my fate, I must accept it. And not even the veil can protect me from my Muslim brothers.

So I play a little game in my head. It’s like walking through a videogame scene, where every man is a potential predator, and I keep my radar finely tuned, my walk fast and dontmesswithme, my eyes scanning every corner for attackers. Over the years, I’ve acquired a Robocop face that occasionally scares the living shit out of small children and animals, and my middle finger is my videogame weapon that I choose to shoot when the moment comes.

But I only keep it for those who really deserve it; I ask myself ‘Is this the worst line I’ve heard all day? Has he managed to completely annihilate my self-esteem?’ If so, then he gets the finger. If not, I just walk on.

And I defy what my well-intentioned mother and many other kind Egyptians have taught me, and I answer back. Why should men  get all the fun?

Him: Bsssst! Bsssssst! Bssssssst!!

Me: Bsssst dee teb2a ommak.

Him: WELKOM TO EEJIPT!

Me: SANK YOU!

Him: Wat Zis? Wat Zis? Wat Zis? WAT ZIS?

Me: Zis is etnayel yala.

Him: Matgeeb Bosa?

Me: Ma3ak Dettol?

Him: Oh MAI GODD!

Me: Ommak Ar3a.

And as fun as it is to talk back, I’m sure I’m not getting the same kick out of it that they are. And I know that it could only make things worse for me, my predator could easily attack me  in broad daylight or get his friends together to follow me like a pack of rabid dogs, and of course it will be my fault because I talked back, when I should ignore it and accept that this is the price you pay for being a woman in Egypt. Right?

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429 responses to “I’m an Egyptian Woman and I Like Being Sexually Harrassed

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    • Anonymous

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    • abdu reh an

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    • Anonymous

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      • Anonymous

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    • Anonymous

      I hope you land in some gay heaven and they harass the shit out of you. I hope they grope, attack, touch you and verbally abuse you. Just so that you and your retarded brothers could get a taste of your own poison.
      Fuck you. Seriously!
      I would have also prayed that your mother would some day come complaining to you that she was harassed on the street, but then I thought this would be very evil of me. I also thought that I am sure this happens to her daily already, and probably to your sister, to your girlfriend and to your cousins too.
      I just really hope it happens to you someday.
      Asshole!

      • M

        hey hey no need to drag the gays into this we did nothing now and are not interested in him.
        On another note amazing article! :)

      • Anonymous

        Cairo is the “gay heaven” you talk about. Young egy men fuck anything. And, our 5000 strong seniorcitizen/gay/expat community are most grateful for that. Send the harrassers to us. We calm them down, blow them for you, for your safety. I only wish we could “do” more (of them).

  2. abdu reh an

    iwant fuk very slovly and long also

    • Anonymous

      إختشي علي دم أمك

    • Anonymous

      I hope you land in some gay heaven and they harass the shit out of you. I hope they grope, attack, touch you and verbally abuse you. Just so that you and your retarded brothers could get a taste of your own poison.
      Fuck you. Seriously!
      I would have also prayed that your mother would some day come complaining to you that she was harassed on the street, but then I thought this would be very evil of me. I also thought that I am sure this happens to her daily already, and probably to your sister, to your girlfriend and to your cousins too.
      I just really hope it happens to you someday.
      Asshole!

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  4. Anonymous

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  5. Erick Knaider

    Unbelievable. Look at the comments! What is this?!

    I dont know how you girls manage in Cairo. I really don’t know. Chapeau for your tolerance and patience.

    God bless.

  6. Instead of guys feeling some empathy with one of millions daily victims in the street for whom their only fault is being a female, they are showing a way worse inhumane side showing how much they are dead from the inside out.

    Cheer up, be brave as you are, and a day would come in which all that would change Insha’ Allah…

  7. Anonymous

    This is so complicated and has nothin to do with females themselves, we do respect our sisters, more there anywhere in the world, but what happens when ur a man, life goin on fast, u getting old, in ur 30′s and your virgin, can’t find a job, don’t have nothing, can’t have a wife, life, sex, etc, ur mind is unstable, seeing all these girls out who you can’t dream of one of them to be your wife simply becus ur a poorbum, we’re vein!! We didn’t see nothing, we didn’t achieve anything, we feel useless, put urself in our sitution, instead of harrasing girls, I wish I had only one girl and be able to give her a good life, instead of sitting most of the days in coffe shops “ahwa” I wish I had a good job and make money!! Instead of my parents giving me money in this age, I wish I was the one giving em, this all sucks, makes one do anything to forget about his sorrows, hopless life, u ppl can’t just come on here from ur perfect life and say omg look at this egyptian people and what they do, try living our life, see years passing by and ur the same guy doin the same thing every hour,day,month,year…don’t judge.

    • Anonymous

      This is quite an empty argument. So you infringe on the rights of others and demoralize and hurt them because you yourself are victimized by society? Really? So if it’s alright to harass women because you are poor and a virgin isn’t also alright to rob a bank or kill someone for their money? Because, you’re a victim and all and everything you do is justified.

      Honestly, this is the argument mostly used by criminals. Shirking the responsibility for their actions and blaming it on their situation.

      And by the way, aren’t Egyptian women also suffering from the same cultural and socioeconomically situations as yourself? As a matter of fact they are. And to top it all off, tehy have to deal with immoral pigs who thinks it’s fine to harrass them on the street because they’re haven’t been fortunate enough in their lives.

      Pigs belong in pigsties.

    • orei

      I’ve been to countries that have a more troubled population and society however you dont find this sexual harassment and frustration. I think it’s more linked to certain morals and values in our society that portray sexual pleasure and women as a trophie for good behavior… I leave the rest for your imagination.

    • youssef

      May you allow me to thank you for the good description of the sad current egyptian situation,sure it is not the case for all egyptian youngmen,but for many of them!Also the problem is in the morals and not sticking to the religion and not applying the right religion on our attitudes and thinking to be well-mannered with the women!

  8. Linda

    I’m with you sister! I live in France and even though the situation is very different here I feel the same anger. Everyday I get comments in the street about how I look. Recently I started talking back to whomever said something. I calmly explain that men should not comment on women’s bodies, that it isn’t a right that they have. We all have to fight back, talk back and believe in a better relationship between men and women. I know it’s a billion times worse in Egypt and in many other countries. I hope you you find the strength to go on fighting.

  9. Anonymous

    Well said , but I think ppl with these disgusting comments didnt understand what u talking about at all !!! , specially the 1st part , this is sad !!

  10. Bravo girl! I can’t believe the comments… Animals is an understatement. Primates too… God help us!

  11. norah davex

    Hey,

    I lived in Cairo for a while and I am originally from the states. I can tell you for sure that i enjoyed the harrassment because men here in the states literally dont see women. I think they are too busy with their own selves being the best
    at sports and they dont have much time on their hands like Egyptian men do because
    unlike Egyptian men, american guys like to drink with other guys without hitting that much
    on other women they are drunk and like to skateboard, workout for hours, run and keep
    themselves busy. They hardly would notice if a naked woman strutted infront of them. They keep
    to themselves even if shes very attractive they would not spare her a glance. So
    seeing you talk about being annoyed by harrassment surprises me because when I
    was in cairo I really enjoyed the attention I got from men which I other wise do
    not get at all in America even if I tried.

    Thank you for reading!

    Best,
    Norah

    • Anonymous

      Emm Norah are you bat-shit crazy? You must be… Please trade our men for yours then, you can enjoy feeling like a cheap piece of ass and gropped, humiliated, harassed, raped, killed or all at once. In case you didn’t know, there is also a trend where they throw sulfuric acid on a woman’s face or body, I’m sure you would enjoy that. Cheers

    • attia kamal

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      I wait, please tell me about your suitable time

    • alec

      Hey babe,

      Lets meet and go to a casino or a club and take it from there

      Take care

  12. Anonymous

    My thoughts are with you – how can they dare and try to find sad excuses… THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR ANY OF THIS!
    Keep your head up, go on and I hope that things will change for the better and they finally come to see the right that has ALWAYS BEEN YOURS!

    I can only talk for Germany but there would be a LAWSUIT if anyone harassed a woman – physically assault (and that is what it really is) is unthinkable for me.

  13. Tamer

    I can’t believe harassment is even resuming here in comments .. This nation is f sick

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  18. Anonymous

    So sad… They are far from being your brothers… Woman are not sex objects they are not made for a man’s pleasure… they are made to be able to look at a man and not away, they are made to be called a sister in return and respected as one. I am sorry you have to go through this =(

  19. This is so sad, I remember all the harassment I got in Brazil but I imagine the situation is more complicated in Cairo. These man are just so afraid of women, of what we can achieve, and they use their brainless strength to try and keep us silent.. We are their enemies even though we are the reason they are in this world in the first place.. I could never understand such lack of compassion and respect.. but please hang in there, I really hope situation gets better there..

  20. OmarMagdi

    Get some pepper spray and fuck the shit out of their eyes. be a tough woman, weak women won’t last long with a pack of wolves.

  21. Ahmed

    I absolutely loved this piece. Like a true Egyptian, your sarcasm is on point. Egypt needs to focus on education and dispel the abundance of ignorance that is prevelant in today’s Egyptian society. Unfortunately, the 1952 Egyptian revolution led to the demise of an extremely successful British education system.

  22. Fashe5 el tennen

    Well, the game shit was so fucking funny but anyway ur right men in egypt will harrass u so what the hell ever , whatever u wear, do or reply with. IDK but i would never do that. Also whenever i try to defend a girl who’s being harrassed i get beaten the shit out of me :D , i am 15 YO and the harrasser is like in his 20s or 30s. At least i tried :D

  23. Anonymous

    What is sicker than the actual harassment is the comments left here by some who can’t understand they’re the ones being ridiculed. (great sense of humour by the way). What use is it to free a country of a tyran if women can’t be free to walk about?

  24. islam

    brilliant article, but i would say that if every girl being sexual harassed stood up for those sick mother fuckers they will think twice before harassing you again and i have seen a lot of good examples out there.

  25. KachinaStar

    I am sitting here laughing my butt off because I happen to be Egyptian as well (born and raised in California, parents from Heliopolis and Nasr city). And I do recall visiting Egypt as a kid, then as a 16-17 year old where it was quite different with no hijab and so-called “American” clothing (but still modest)… this was in the 1990′s… my uncle had to hold my hand when we went to the bazaar – I forgot what the locals call it – and I was horrified yet strangely satisfied by all the attention I received from the men around us… To this day, the idea of that kind of attention is erotic to me, so I best stay the heck out of Egypt for the time being :) As a side note, I once came across a documentary about an ancient Egyptian piece of artwork on papyrus – “pornography” if you will – of orgys, body parts, positions, etc. They showed some of it and it’s pretty detailed, so it’s not on display in museums. Maybe we’re not so different from them. LOL

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